Comments on: Gender Disappointment – psychological condition or just spoilt?

By: Joe

Joe — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 20:50:53 +0000

I’m sorry you’re disgusted. One of the nice things about the Internet is that I can express a viewpoint and you can choose to agree with it, disagree with it, or whatever. You know bugger all about me, so I think you’re making some assumptions about me that are inevitably going to be wrong.

Feel free to call me ‘narrow minded and insensitive’ – I’ve expressed an opinion that I stick with. That’s why the site is called Joe’s Jottings – they’re my opnions.

Thanks for dropping by.

By: Disgusted

Disgusted — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 12:46:04 +0000

I’m disgusted by your article. What gives you the right to judge another person’s right to grieve over something they don’t have and dearly want? You make the assumption that someone suffering from gender disappointment doesn’t love the children they have enough. Have you ever heard a mother say “I wish I had never had my because I wanted a “? I very much doubt it. That’s not what gender disappointment is about. It’s not about not loving your children, it’s about feeling a deep disappointment that you don’t ALSO have a child of the other gender.

The desire to have a child can be completely overwhelming (just ask any couple who battles infertility), and the desire for a particular gender can be almost as strong.

One person’s grief over not having a child of a particular gender does not take away the grief of a parent with a handicapped child, or that of a child-less couple. Each is entitled to their own grief. Grief is about experience. One person’s level of grief is measured against their own past experiences.

You call the sufferers of gender disappointment “spoiled”? Well I call you narrow-minded and insensitive.

And in case you think I’m biased, no I’m not. I have a pigeon pair and am thankful every day that I am lucky enough to have the precious experience of mothering both a son and a daughter.

By: Joe

Joe — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:45:09 +0000

I think that is SO true about children being sensitive – I hope that none of the kids whose parents were profiled in the article ever read the piece and ‘spot’ themselves. So cruel.

By: Abi

Abi — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 20:23:38 +0000

Children are acutely aware of how their parents feel about them, and will often pick up slights that only exist because perhaps a parent was a bit clumsy with their turn of phrase one day. People who whine in public about how they wanted children other than the ones they have deserve every ounce of their perceived misery, because they have told their own children “you’re not good enough”. And even if they are genuinely upset, they should be grown up enough to keep it to themselves. Gender disappointment my arse.